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As I sit here writing this post, I am distracted by my beautiful daughters scrummy face and I almost feel the tears coming as I feel so lucky. No one really goes into detail on how emotional you will be after having a baby, of course post natal depression is mentioned (as it’s extremely important to know about this) but sometimes we need to know it’s ok to cry over literally spilling milk.
Over the past three weeks since Jade was born, I probably have cried at least three times a day. It could be over the fact I now have a gorgeous daughter, I am so tired or that it breaks my heart when she cries and I don’t know what to do. Even when someone asks how I am or tells me I’m doing a good job, I start blubbering away. A simple hug could set me off.
I did think ‘do I have post natal depression?’ at one point because surely a new mother should be delighted over her new baby and wouldn’t be crying all day, should they? After chatting to my midwife and friends (plus good old Dr.Google!) I do now understand that it is completely normal to feel this way and it doesn’t make me a bad mum to have a cry over something trivial like no sleep. It’s apparently called the ‘baby blues’. However, I do wish there was more support in this area, maybe mentioning it at a parenting class or at the many antenatal appointments.
Even having a look online about having the ‘baby blues’, the NCT website states:
During the first week after giving birth, many new mums can find themselves feeling weepy and irritable. This is called the ‘baby blues’ and it is experienced by up to 80% of mums after giving birth.
There are various theories about what causes the baby blues, but no definitive answer. What is clear is suddenly your body has some major adjustments to make. You may also be experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions, such as great joy but at the same time overwhelmed with the responsibility of looking after your baby.
Symptoms of the baby blues include:
- feeling emotional and irrational,
- bursting into tears for no apparent reason,
- feeling irritable or touchy and/or
- feeling depressed or anxious.
The baby blues is not an illness and should lift, without any medical treatment, by the time your baby is around 10 days old. It is natural to experience some conflicted feelings after birth. If you’re still feeling low after this, you could have postnatal depression.
Apparently it should go away after about 10 days, if not then are my emotions considered as post natal depression?
I know I don’t have post natal depression, I am just extra emotional. Now Tom is on paternity leave for two weeks I know I’ll be ok and probably won’t cry anymore now I have help during the day, but what happens if you are a single mum or your partner can’t have time off work? Some people are just extra emotional and shouldn’t just fall into the post natal depression catagory, but at the same time post natal depression can affect some people and they need help and support from those around them.
What are your opinions on this? Do you think women should have more information on how their emotions will be after birth to help them understand it’s ok? Were you emotional or suffered with PND and can give some helpful advice?